Wanted to say I relate to what you wrote. I'm still working on finding an answer to these issues, so I can't offer a solution. Its quite devastating to have flashbacks interfer within a relationship. Recently, I had a bf move in with me and the flashbacks started as soon as we were intimate. I switched off after that and became numb and depressed. He moved out after two weeks because he couldn't handle it. This after having known each other for 2 years. It sucks that abuse affects us like this, when all we want to do is share a normal loving relationship.
hugs, hope things get better for you
Blaidd (pronounced as blaith/blithe) is a welsh word meaning wolf.