Hi, all.

I have a question--mostly for survivors, but it would be great to hear from other spouses/SOs also--about rage issues.

My husband has been doing really well over the past year or so in dealing with his abuse issues, depression, etc. I've been trying my best to be supportive and helpful. But in the past month or so his depression worsened, probably mostly due to the change in seasons and a very, very stressful job. And the spiralling down ultimately leads to increased anger on his part. I also become less able to cope, more forgetful, and probably less supportive (hard to look from outside . . .)

What this led up to was my doing something that triggered his rage. He wanted to get out of the house when he was feeling terrible, I got stupidly caught up in something for a few hours and didn't call him, and he went ballistic.

I don't know how to deal with the rage while it's happening, or the aftermath of pain, anxiety, fear, and loss that I feel now. I could really use some help in understanding how best to deal with this.