But what is strange about this situation is that everything seemed "normal" sexually for the first two years, then things waned for weeks then months. My fiance has been in two long-term marriages plus an affair or two in the past, and apparently that is his pattern--starting out sexual then becoming less so to nothing.

I am certainly willing to work around his issues but he is either unwilling or unable to talk about them; hopefully, with this program we are going to we can have some progress. He says he wants to change. But he has been saying that for a couple of years.

He is a doll in all other areas of our lives but I feel like we are just roommates without the sexual side. And if we are just roommates, then I need to be somewhere else.