I feel like I'm being sh*t tested so often now...improvements happen, but it feels like they're all for show.

He'll never let me in. I cannot say anything at all when he makes mistakes, or backs out of plans, or runs the family late, or...it goes on and on. Everything is a secret: feelings, defenses, conversation, sex...I'm last on the list after work, friends, family and zoning out.

I feel manipulated. Is that all he knows to do? I never know what I will say or do to "cause" him to become defensive, withdraw, or become passive aggressive. I'm sick of the eggshells. Regression is lousy. He doesn't trust me, but doesn't communicate what I can do to build trust in a reasonable way. His expectations are through the roof.

This is not a marriage; it's an emotional hostage situation.