Everything said here makes so much sense. I love this site (although I only seem to post once a year or so).

I'm trying so hard to be supportive of my partner of 10 years but I actually feel as if im now taking a nose dive. I'm exhausted. I'm so tired of being blamed for everything and I'm feeling like I need some care, myself.

To make things worse, I'm now drinking far too much. I finally (at the age of 41) understand why people do it - to forget. Can't say I blame them.

I'm so tired. How do I look after myself while not abandoning him?