Victor-Victim, I couldn't agree more. Thats why i found a therapist that specializes in this area and I will visit her for the 2nd time next week. I won't stay if he doesn't go to therapy and that's all there is to it. But i am going to let it rest for a little bit and then give it another go. Originally i was pushing and pleading and then i realized I couldnt make him do anything and now he seems to have opened up a bit without much effort on my part. I dont want him to close that door but when the time is right, i will bring it up to him again.