An amazing statement indeed.
I can only tell you about myself and hope you get my point.
I had 5 perps ... between the ages of 3 and 9.
I have 'forgiven' 2, 3, and 4 ...
for 2 reasons.
This happened in the late 50's/early 60's. I am convinced that if it were today ... knowing what everybody knows now ...
they wouldn't have laid a finger on me.
They didn't 'hurt' me and although I have no idea if I was the only one back then I am certain that they are not a danger to other children now.
They aren't and truly weren't pedophiles.
If I thought they were I'd have gone after them years ago.
I've let them go because to some small degree that lightens the load ...
and I'll take any relief I can get.
I'd like nothing better than to send 1 and 5 to hell ...
if they weren't there already.
I wish I could claim that I am the only reason they are there ...
but I know I'm not.
If you read some of my poetry you'll soon see that I am being a bit of a hypocrite by telling you to be more gentle with yourself and let go
of at least some of it ........
Hate is not your power Jude ... it's your jailer.
I wrote a lot more than I'm submitting ... explaining the anguish I live with to this day.
If I had continued I would never have been able to finish ...
and so I'll stop now.
Experience is a brutal teacher.