i think my mother was a good one - until she married husband #2. something in her died when my real father died (i was almost 3). i was almost 6 when she re-married. then i lost her completely - as far as emotional connection. and she just went through the motions. looked VERY good from the outside - overcompensation - but empty. i was never physically hungry or dirty or badly clothed or sheltered. we were affluent and had the status props. but i needed so much more. and all i got was the step-dad's cruelty.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"