Lenny, you and your wife sound like our twins. He lies a lot of times out of fear of my reaction.
I always tell him when you tell me something, I may or may not react or respond in a way that you wanted AND I MAY OR MAY NOT LIKE IT but you can be DAMNED WELL SURE THAT IF YOU LIE I WILL ALWAYS REACT IN A NEGATIVE AND VERY BAD WAY AND I WILL NEVER LIKE IT. You have about a 50/50 chance of getting the response that you want when you are truthful but you have a 100% chance of having a very bad reaction when you lie. It just is what it is. Not only that but every lie, big or small, drives us further away from EVER trushing you.