My husband disclosed that he never has an ache for sex. Ever. Sex is mechanical at best for him, and he doesn't like it or want it. I knew this in part, of course, seeing how we don't have any. But I'm not sure where to go from here. Does this mean sex is off the board forever? Do I just have to suck it up and forget about this part of life and about children and family? I know that you can't answer this for me, but I'd like to get some more insights. Hence my questions: If you didn't have a sex drive at all because of what happened to you, did that change for you at any time? Was there anything that helped you learn to enjoy physical touch? How did you get a connection with your significant other that held in the physical realm, too, and how did you build on this to actually have sex?