It seems so difficult, but I am not saying he isn't worth it. I am struggling with trying to accept behaviors because he's a survivor and not think of them in terms of simply a bad relationship with the wrong guy. I am going with my gut, but I am committed whether we make it or not, to try to understand and help him. I've scheduled an appointment with a T and I hope he can help shed some light onto his behaviors and help me determine if something is normal for a survivor or if I am making excuses for him to hold onto hope that the man I love and want to be there for wants the same.