Sometimes we want things to be a certain way so badly that we mask our denial in compassion. You husband is hurt and damaged by that hurt - but your compassion can not lead you to endanger your child. Even if your husband would never PHYSICALLY harm his child, his lack of focus on his recovery does not provide stability or predictability that a child needs to grow up WITHOUT these kinds of issues. Spend some time reading about what life is like for the child of a BPD person (who is NOT in treatment)- and then think about whether the interactions should be supervised - or better yet, contextualized.
Edited by Esposa (05/25/13 11:45 PM)
Edit Reason: added NOT IN TREATMENT