Things have been really bad with my husband since last year, after we had a baby. Triggered to acting out, cheating with a lot of women, drinking, disappearing, quitting school and just hell. Our beautiful son is 16 months old. I'm going to Al Anon and get support here. And really thought that if my husband eventually got help, and if we got marriage counseling, perhaps I could get past all of the bad behavior because I understand and have compassion. But then I found out how deep the lies went. He made up a whole life for himself. He led me to believe he was 6 years older than he is, which means I married him when he was only 19 and I was 32. He lied about going to college, living in other countries, jobs, friends, girlfriends, so many things. I can't even begin to process any of the lies. And kept it up for over 5 years to someone he spent every day and night with, who was his closest friend, and wife. I believe he did love me (as much as he could) but can't believe anything else. I think he may suffer from deep mental problems, perhaps borderline personality disorder as well as his PTSD, but I am no doctor. He's moved out and I don't think there's any way to stay married after knowing this. But I'm really worried that if someone can lie like this, perhaps I shouldn't trust him with the baby. He loves him and would do anything for him, and hasn't been dangerous to anyone but himself. But I fear the baby could be a victim of collateral damage in all of this craziness. A lawyer I spoke to today told me to breathe and thinks that we can separate/divorce without going to court, while my closest friend and employer feels he is a danger and I shouldn't let him near me or the child. I will do anything to protect my son, and while I feel horribly betrayed and have no trust, without making things really ugly, I don't know how I could keep him from watching his son or spending time with him. Nor do I even know if I want to do that. Has anyone experienced anything like this? It's a like a bad movie of the week, I got seriously conned by the love of my life and do not know how best to protect myself and my baby moving forward.