Hi Ken,

I'm struggling with my sexual identity, and I decided to read all the post on this topic. I've been married for 9 years, and have 3 wonderful kids. For tha lst year, I can't have any sex with my wife. I don't feel aroused, and I'm having troubl getting turned on. I did have sex with a man, and I don't feel ashame anymore, but I did feel comfortable wih him(this didn't happened before with other experineces I've had with men). These last days, I've been thinking on leaving my wife. Because I felt comfortable(emotionaly attached) with this guy, does it mean I'm gay, or confused? Do you think I can still work my issues to be with my wife? I don'tknow what to do, and I don't want to regret my final decision.