I'm married and work for a Protestant Church.

I've always respected what Jesus said about anyone looking upon another woman with lust is committing adultery in his heart.

But when I have fantasies about sucking my brother's penis, am I not doing the same thing?

I've recently decided to strive for a purer marriage. We're pretty "normal", I think, maybe even boring.

But today I gave time to fantasies about my brother.

Recently I attended a marriage workshop where looking at pornography was compared to having a mistress.

I'm just as bad, aren't I? Or worse, since we are talking about my own brother.
"This is not my shame, this is their shame." Mona Eltahawy