I can only speak from my own experience. There were things I could never do for my wife but all along I knew there were other little things I could of done. That would of been better then nothing. There were little things I did for other people but not for my wife. Why did I treat her worse then I treated other people? It;s not like I ever forgot her birthday or anniversery but still there were other things I could of done for her all along, little things. I gave more courtisies to other peopole then I did to my wife, the person I love most.
I live outside Manchester New Hampshire. I still feel real protective of my kids even though their teenagers so I never put my home here before. I talked myself through though and said that nobody;s gonna track my kids down just because they know what state I live in. I was thinking about that for awhile, this was a big step but it feels ok.