Ibcali, I also get it. Like Lancer, I pretended it was okay. It wasn't. It starts slowly, the verbal, and just continued to escalate. It is the most regretful few years of my life. Embarrassing. Humiliating. Abusive on all levels. I still am in disbelief that it happened. And the scars remain. I took no one's advice because I was to embarrassed to tell anyone what was happening. And what did happen... for me, I waited too long.... Follow your instincts. Please.
For now we see through a glass, darkly.