After weeks of fighting and threats of divorce my husband laid down next to me and told me that when he was six years old he was raped by a relative of a family friend and that is where some if not most of his pent up anger comes from. We are now in our mid thirties and my husband has been diagnosed with bi-polar but now that I know this (and no one else in the world does) I'm not even sure that diagnosis is right anymore. We have not spoken about the abuse since that night and I don't know how to approach him. Obviously he has never been comfortable enough to tell anyone else and I'm not sure he ever will. So I may be the only one that is going to have the opportunity to help him through the pain and shame he so obviously has been carrying for 30 years. I need some guidance on where I go from here.