I am sorry to hear of your pain. My wife and I have seen the movie "Fireproof" and are working with the book LOVE DARE. The book has opened a very honest discussion between us. It has been of great benefit to our relationship. We wish you the best and will be thinking of you and praying for his and your progress. It takes a willingness an work, it can get better.
it is and has been quite a trip thru life, as last I feel that I am in a better place, it takes work and in my case a wife the was and is forgiveing and helpful. At last a relationship has gone right, messed up three.