Thank you Bill Harry. We, too, have a strong faith which was probably why he held it together for the first 29 years of our marriage, and only led a double life for the last 5. He's full of remorse and has been Ok for the last 5 months, and we're hoping that will last. He's done well in counselling, and I'm the one he's accountable to.

The problem is that I'm having an emotional time dealing with what he's done as my fairy tale marriage wasn't a fairy tale after all. It really hurts, but I have to accept things as they are now.

I'm trying to get counselling for myself, but there's a 6 to 12 week wait. I feel that I need counselling NOW.

I'll try to find 'Fireproof' and the book.

I really do appreciate you taking the time to reply.