Jemma, what you write hits a nerve with me very much. Although I may get more 'me time' than I long for, cause I'm moving back home and my spouse will stay behind for a year to finish his work contract. It's weird, all he talks about is how he'll miss me and all I think about is how relieved I will feel to be on my own. But in general I believe it will do me good, not just because I get time on my own but also because I will finally live in a place where I actually want to live and where I have a legal status.
Esposa, you've got a point when you talk about 'taking pulse' but the site you suggested just didn't do it for me.