I guess there are technical ways to approach this, but there seems here a wonderful opportunity to really look at the fundamentals. For me at least, I have found that trust begins and ends with myself. If you tell her you will never again go astray, do you trust yourself to keep that promise? Love is wonderful, but trust has a greater intrinsic value because it is so much harder to earn it from - and it extend to - others. But what is true for me may not apply here - just sharing.