Having secrets makes it hard to trust.
I don't have any secrets- all the shameful things I' used to repress and hold onto I've shared with people who earned my trust, were honest and made me feel safe.
It is a skill- a ratio shop skill- to trust others. And learning healthy relationships (and healthy, affirming sexuality) is one of the chief mountains on the mountain range of my recovery life.
We all need people we can trust- fr most of us, it's 180 degrees opposite the abuse experience. And trust is the most life affirming, life expanding course for me. I can't live in isolation. I need to share my fears and thoughts and hopes with people who are a good fit.
So what characterizes the trust in the relationships you do have?
What support do you have for your recovery?
What bad choices have you made in the past about trust?
What good choices?
What resulted from either type of choices?
We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.
�It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner