So I come here today, and see another shrink making exactly the same kinds excuses that the perps use against me and the other victims.

And most galling of all, he's urging "discussion that won't polarize folks around here." and instructing: "Let's be civil"

No. I won't be civil: You're contributing to the problem, Ken.

I am advocating for civil discussion among the readers here. In no way am I saying that anyone should be swayed by arguments that therapists or perpetrators make. It is only to keep the focus, whether someone is taking a stance one way or another, to be respectful to each other. That's all.

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse