I know I don't have the right to tell people what to do (co-dependant) but all I know is that THERAPY has saved our butts ! We struggling humans just don't know how to handle all of this crap. For us, a CSA Profesional has guided us thru the nasty muck. Left to our own devices (rather poor) we would be more-sick than ever before. I like to compare to 'if we have an absess tooth & jaw, we have to go to a Professional'. This big stuff just cannot be done on our own. People have died from all this crap - I prefer getting help. We refuse to let the abuser take over our lives! These 'after affects' just need that input & assistance,
Don't give up. I M Opinion.
Still trying hope?