sorry that a pleasant evening became a trigger for you. i can totally understand that. it is the sort of situation i try my best to avoid. locker rooms are totally out of the question for me. too much history there! but there are surprises out there just waiting to ambush you when you least expect it. it is not always something you can foresee. i am glad that you were able to talk with someone who understands it. and so good that you can refer another potential member here.
hope you are doing better now.
Edited by traveler (02/14/13 02:11 AM)
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"