Wow that's a lot to take in. I think you being a CSA survivor yourself can change the dynamic. Me and my H are both survivors as well. I'm very open about my history it doesn't bother me to talk about anything from my past but H avoids intimate conversations. Its hard as a wife to not feel like you can ask you husband about anything and there is so much you don't know. My H never disclosed to me he just dropped hints and I figured it out. I wish so badly that I had advice to share with you about how to get him to open up and face things. Having children must make it that much more stressful. You sound like a strong lady keep posting and if I have any break throughs with my own survivor I will be sure to share them.
Everything comes from within