Every now and then I do want to hear his voice because he is a close friend and I find talking to be a much more effective way of communicating and conveying emotion than text. But demands will get me nowhere.
Dearest EagerLearner, to expect and desire the least of the least, voice to voice communication after texting for years is anything but a demand. You are putting him first, above yourself and in the meanwhile, you are hurting. More love is being given to him and his needs than it is to yourself. Yes the issues attached to being a survivor run deep, however they are still human beings. It is one thing to be nurturing, understanding, accepting, and loving. It is another when we help keep someone stuck in their unhealthy comfort zone.
By all means, it is your life and your choices if you are content, but I don't see how it's doing him any good either.