That is right, esposa, until they are honest with themselves (which apparently is very, very difficult)it would be impossible for them to be truthful with anyone.

I don't know your husband but he sounds like he may have other problems than being a survivor. Maybe sex addiction? Seems to be a real common theme around here.

Other women? Women? Maybe you could look into some support for you during this trying time. COSA or S'anon.