Like yourself I have had major issues with male friends for years. "becoming close to men because it most of the time leads to attraction and feelings that I don't want to have" is a major problem with me as well.
So please don't feel alone in your thoughts. I have just started letting the gates down to allow myself to have "male" friends .. at the moment takin an as it goes attitude.
My Story : http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...4645#Post434645