Still digestin'. Jude, your point about putting HIS needs before MINE (or at least being so unapologetically forward about it) I think may be the crux of it.

Similar point A...only keep the best peeps. Thnx.

Only remaining issue is that although I'd like to have a brief chat with his super, I'm not looking forward to it. For all I know, she may be the source of his attitude. I don't need to do it. But it might serve someone else in the future. Christ, I didn't want this shit.