Lancer - one of the biggest surprises in my life was when i was once talking with the step-father's younger brother - my "uncle." he was much more like me than like his brother. as it gradually came out - the two of them had not got on well, either - and he even alluded to the fact that the step-dad's dead kids had not been as perfect as he had made them out to be. he also hinted at the fact that his big bro had a violent temper and could tend toward over-doing the "spankings" and other "discipline."

what you said -
***"He's been able to confirm my childhood impressions on a lot of things, even the gold-digging mommybitch social climber. Can't begin to say how affirming and validating the whole conversation was."***

YES - so TRUE!
like a confirmation that you aren't the only one who sees that the "emperor has nothing on!" YOU are not the crazy one, dude!
and neither am I!!!
- Lee
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"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"