I am not a therapist, but I tried my own self-therapy before I decided I needed more than I could offer myself. I downloaded Michael Scarce's book. I found it a good, powerful read. Since my experience was given to me by a friend, I also downloaded The Gift of Fear by Gavin deBecker. (I mean I experienced acquaintance rape.) These two books began my intellectual journey toward resolution with myself. While trying to discover other males who might have experienced similar events- ASA- rape- I discovered what you did. In the US, there are a multitude of resources for women and for the victims of CSA. The materials I found for men of ASA were produced and published in the UK and in New Zealand. A very handy pamphlet I might recommend is When A Man Is Raped. This can be accessed at http://www.ecav.health.nsw.gov.au/ecav/pdf/when_a_man_is_rape.pdf
There are others on line, but I am certain most have seen them. Hopefully I contributed something of value and thanks for your posts.
For now we see through a glass, darkly.