I have become comfortable telling people, "I was raped as a boy" or "...as a kid." For some reason, "kid" is a less triggering word for me than "boy."
It's simple to say and cuts through all the euphemism bullshit like "molested" or even "abused." No, I was raped.
Matt, I can understand your ambiguity over oral rape, but remember that I don't remember the rape at all, only that I know it happened.
It's a terrible word, but there's solace in it, too. I find strength in being able to claim it and say it, "I was raped when I was a kid."
It's made me who I am.
But he grew old, this knight so bold / And upon his heart a shadow / Fell as he found / No spot on the ground / That looked like El Dorado.