Originally Posted By: davidgeorge
I am new to this site and I have suffered guilt and remorse for a long time for these incidents which I did not call sexual abuse but life experiences which happened to me. I now realize that I was abused by older people and I need help to get over it..
I have had many failed encounters with the opposite sex and I don;t know why this has happened. I always called it performance anxiety but even viagra has not helped. I clam up like a shell and I can;t perform at all.

Where do I start to look for help and which issue should I focus on first.
Any thoughts or comments would be appreciated.

They say a child will get over it as he is young and will not remember these
experiences later on in life. I am here to tell you that is not true and I can remember every one of these life experiences and the approximate age I was at when these events happened to me.

hi, davidgeorge - and welcome! (and apologies to you, firedog, for stepping in to redirect this hijack!)

davidgeorge - heres's how to get started:

go back and re-open the Introductions Forum. at the top of the list of topics/threads, you will see a "New Topic" button you can click on to start your own thread and post your intro there.

firedog is new here, too and perhaps a bit sensitive.

i know there is a lot to take in all at once - and just learning the ropes is difficult - even without the added stress of revealing private and painful secrets of your past.

hope you'll find the help you need here. it is one good resource. and most of the guys are very supportive. hope to "see" you around...

(and glad to have you with us, too, firedog!)

"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"