I struggled with damaged sexuality for years.
My innate (authentically me) sexuality was hijacked by the abuse and the lessons my family taught me-
-lack of real intimacy
-"don't talk about it"
In facing my sexual acting out, I had to be rigorously honest and look at this all and strongly disconnect from fueling the cycle of shame and isolation that sex had always delivered to me.
THe brain can be rewired- you can discover healthy sexuality if you are willing to do the work of getting help and open this entire problem up to honest reviewal, journaling, meditation and seeking guidance from those who have been there and are in a better place
I see how I spent years reinforcing the lessons of my childhood abuse-it took a lot if effort to escape this gravitational pull- but those efforts reap rewards- just as my efforts towards seeking sex in unworkable ways used to reap more shame and isolation.
Know yourself. Don't be afraid. Honesty and compassion will light the way to healing and discovering Sexuality that is affirming, powerful, loving and connecting.
We have to take responsibility for what we're not responsible for.
�It doesn't matter where you've come from,
It matters where you go" Frank Turner