I am sorry--you have been there and for him, the healing is not moving forward. He had your support, which shows your true character as a compassionate and loving wife. How many of us here, envy your husband to have this support. Now it is up to him. For me, healing is what I want and I want to find the love and support of a woman who can open her heart and mind. I do not want to run from the past and hide it. One day I hope your husband can embrace the past, the hurt of the abuse and what it has done to who he is.
You seem to have support and strength and I hope it takes you through your difficult times.