I agree-it creates confusion as to who we are--some experts have spoken about sexual imprinting can impact how we think--it may not change our sexuality but can wreak havoc--believing acts of abuser will be repeated by the child abused later in life--trying to undo or take control of the abuse--with no emotional or sensual feelings derived from the act-it is the sexual act and not an expression of a sexual identity. http://www.straightguise.com/default.asp?id=1315
And A. Ali has stated the following:
It is important to recognize how abuse imprints the soul, because many people tend to think that it is mostly a question of repression that needs to be undone and dealt with. This neglects the structuring effects of such powerful impressions, structuring that becomes part of the victimís identity and character. This means that to learn to fully be free from such history one needs to work on the structures that have developed throughout this abusive history and learn to disidentify from them, or bring them to a degree of flexibility and openness.