SmartShadow, having someone who is willing to not only help you, but learn how to do it, is so very much a treasure.

I just want to say that, there are people out there who haven't got the emotional resources to do that, and end up creating even more pain and emotional prisons, the guilt games, the "just move on already", these all build up even more trauma onver our initial pain.

You are a wonderful person for taking care of your family, and they are wonderful people for taking care of you.
cherish it.