WP - for what it's worth, your partner seems to have benefited from being with you. The fact that even his little parts trust you means a lot. I think that it is quite possible that his memories are surfacing now because it is safe, unlike before.
You have to understand that many of the supporters here have been hurt badly, and will inevitably post from that place of hurt. He may go back to his ex in the end, or he may not. Either way, I don't think it would help him in any way for someone he clearly trusts, to abandon him now...
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
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