I'm not sure how to tell him what I want without him hearing it as criticism and negativity and judgment toward him, which is his main problem in our communication. It reminds him of his father and all he hears is that he's useless and a failure, not hearing that I am being hurt and he is being self-destructive. His response when I've confronted him about things is that "It's over" and he has no responsibility to me and that I can't be hurt by things he does because we have no relationship. We are separated, I can't be affected by him. We can talk about the baby and that's it.