I'm sorry, I certainly didn't intend to do anything more than encourage you. Sometimes we need a boot to the butt, but the majority of the time we survivors need an arm around the shoulder, a hand outreached, or a friend to just "be around." We kick ourselves enough. We certainly don't need someone else to join in.

Bandage your wounded soul, your hurting spirit. Selfishness is the perfect gift a male survivor can give himself. It's the first and most important step we take, as it is necessary time and again for us to treat our wounds.

Remember, a scar is a sign of healing.
I have taken to the stand-up comedy stage to educate other male survivors and those who try to love them. I blog about my isolated religious upbringing where physical and sexual abuse were commonplace and I serve as a facilitator of a weekly support group for men who have suffered sexual assault.