I'm sorry, I certainly didn't intend to do anything more than encourage you. Sometimes we need a boot to the butt, but the majority of the time we survivors need an arm around the shoulder, a hand outreached, or a friend to just "be around." We kick ourselves enough. We certainly don't need someone else to join in.
Bandage your wounded soul, your hurting spirit. Selfishness is the perfect gift a male survivor can give himself. It's the first and most important step we take, as it is necessary time and again for us to treat our wounds.
Remember, a scar is a sign of healing.