Hey (((Lee))), wow, that is some ambitious plan ahead of you.
It is good that you gonna talk with your T about all this, disclosing and confrontation is very sensitive happening and it should be done in safest possible environment. It is good that you won't be alone there, it might be that you'll need some support.
Please don't be scared, even if it has happened once it doesn't mean that it wasn't bad. You are the only one who can tell how bad it was, you suffered a lot, you have had many scars because of it and it was terrible difficult for you, so please be calm about that. And certainly think to comment all your worries and fears with your T and it could be very helpful if you could bring your wife too there, she also has some needs that could be easily forgotten in all this chaos wink
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