Hey lfp, I'm sorry I didn't mean to hijack your thread. And I didn't mean to offend anyone by referring to a "feminized" form of male sexuality. My real point is just this:

"I think one of the principles of recovery is taking back control over our sexuality as men. In doing so we don't have to fit anyone else's definition of manhood. We get to define that for ourselves, as well as being responsible for our choices".

Those who brag about their sex lives are probably looking for validation of their manhood. Well good luck with that......as George Burns once said: "Everything that goes up must come down. But there comes a time when not everything that's down can come up."