no matter they say it or they dont say it, facts dont change, it WAS NOT your fault. its in fact THEIR fault if they cant understand that simple fact. all they need to do is to think how they used to think as kids, how trusting and longing for attention they were. how much they needed hugs....and love at home. how bad they felt when some of them were slapped once in their lives. they just need to remember how they used to think. thats not so hard.
i am not so sure if those people are really worth you worrying about them.

ela (wife of survivor and mother of abused daughter by that very same survivor)
everything is always okay in the end, if it's not, then it's not the end