I wasn't asking for general signs but of specific signs that actually happened with users here or loved ones of users here (since I posted in the friends and family area). I also don't have hatred towards my husband's parents (I am in fact quite fond of them), but I do feel anger that I'm not allowed to express towards his mother because she actually befriended the abuser on facebook. I was hoping that maybe some of the "signs" that my husband showed were similar to other people here.