But what threw me is that he has problems trusting me. He feels he has done too much damage to our relationship with his acting out and infidelity. He feels he is burdening me with his meltdowns. He feels that it is impossible for me to really forgive and continue to love him after all he has done and is waiting for it to be too much. He's waiting for me to leave because he doesn't trust me to stay. Because if the situation were reversed, he doesn't think he could.
My 2 cents. Tell him that while it has been difficult, and that your relationship has been effected by it, that you do understand him better now and that you still
want him. Tell him, that just like him, that you have bad days and ask him to try and remember that when they come up.