Hi Panda,

The type of man you are is up to you, and is not based on biology. Whether you are a gentle man, a gentleman, a tough or rugged man, a sensitive and caring man, etc. makes you one of the many kinds of men you will meet here and elsewhere.

Unfortunately, you share the one particular in your life that makes you like every other man here - you were sexually abused.

It is the qualifier for membership to a group which no one would choose to belong.

Acceptance on someone else's terms is worse than rejection.