Well buck, that's not an easy question.
I think for me, a lot of coming to terms with the affects of recovery involved simply recognizing that I cannot change these affects, but I can change how I react to them and what significance the have to me. I cannot change my own feelings of worthlessness, too many attempts have failed for me to believe that is possible, but in understanding that this belief is an incorrect one, i can stop paying attention to such opinions.
I can't change my genophobia, again, attempts to cope with it just cause intense pain. So, I'll have to live with it and this means living without intimate relationships and accepting that my first, ---- and probably only s/xual experience was that of abuse.
I do not always manage this acceptance, but it's something I'm learning to live with more each day
Above all the main thing I've learnt is persistance, which I'd still regard as the single most important part of recovery at least for me.