Hi nomorevic ...

My story is not exactly like yours, but close enough to elicit some very strong empathy.
I also tend to downgrade what happened to me in comparison to many others here ... and that's the key word ... 'here'
We are all 'here' ... and we all took different roads to get 'here', some much rougher than others ... but we are all 'here'.

We are where we belong ... in the hearts of wounded kindred spirits ... where you often needn't even finish a sentence ...
we already know how it ends ... with pain and anguish ... and now with us ... who understand.

You are 'here'
Experience is a brutal teacher.